i dont look at it as something thats a turn on or turn off. its just a fact about yourself that they can accept or not. personally, im 20 and ive never had any type of romantic experience either, but when i tell people that, ive never got the vibe that they were judging me. they usually just seem surprised whether it be based on my age, my looks, or my personality (if we're friends), but not judgy. i wish we could get rid of the mindset that everyone should have relationships in highschool 🙄

you’re lucky then that no one has ever judged you for that! i told one person before (a girl, mind you) and she looked at me like there was something wrong with me and it made me feel so low, yknow? and i just havent really stopped thinking about that reaction and on friday when i told someone he was like “i cant believe people as pretty as you who’ve never had a boyfriend still exist” and it made me wonder if there’s something wrong with me……i mean in an ideal world people would see it as that, a fact, just like how i have black hair or how i’m half chinese, but everything that has to do with love and romance and sex is always conflated to mean something more than it isn’t and some people don’t see it as nuances, but as simply black and white–she’ll be a good significant other if she’s had experience, bad & something must be wrong with her if she doesn’t–and it’s tiring to live by these society’s rules but it’s not like i can do anything about it