i mean your view point makes sense, as we are shaped by the society around us and your mom didn’t let you have your ears pierced. but saying piercing baby’s ears is traumatic is…not right. i think mostly the older you are when your ears are pierced, the more you remember it hurting, and you look at a parent piercing their baby’s ears and you’re like oh god, it’s going to hurt for the baby that’s so mean why would you do that. so it’s traumatic for you, because you’re old enough to remember it.
but speaking from experience, and my friends’ experiences, we…don’t even remember having our ears pierced. we don’t remember the pain. it’s as if we were born with piercings already there and we can just put on whatever earrings we like. if they dont like having a piercing (which some of my friends didn’t), then they just take it of and let the lobe close.
my mother doesn’t remember the pain either, just knows abstractly that it stings like an ant bite, and it’s the fact that she also has no concept of this pain that made her want to put earrings on her child (me).
basically, you remember that it hurts cause you were 12 and older. i dont remember that it hurts cause i was…less than a year old? so i dont view ear piercing to be a traumatic thing, like you do. which is why i also want to have it done when my (hypothetical) daughter is a baby, to spare her of the memory of pain and trauma.